Growing up I was surrounded by food. We were passionate about our family values. We were loud, boisterous, and rowdy. Meals were not just food they were events. Loading up on pasta till you could barely move was the norm.
Being plump was not a problem , it was normal. Chubby cheeks, no problem, the more to squeeze and pinch. My friends almost all came from the same type of families. We were all just one happy and fat neighborhood.
Food Rewards
Rewards were centered around food. And let me you, it did not take much to be rewarded. Getting an A on a school project most certainly deserved a special dessert. I think I could have swatted a fly and earned a dinner celebration.
Birthday dinner menus were planned far in advance. We always got to choose what we wanted for that special occasion. My Mom, could cook anything so the sky was the limit. “Would you like some tiramisu honey? I’ll make you one just for you.”
Overcoming the Food Factory
By the time I reached high school my weight was totally out of control. I began dieting. Let’s see there was the grapefruit diet, banana diet, Weight Watchers, and your basic starvation diet. I would lose 10 or 20 pounds, give up, and gain 30. It was a vicious cycle that many over weight people go through.
My adult life was spent raising the kids and being determined not to let them be like me – at least weight wise. I tried to cook healthy meals and keep them active. My special treats were kept out of reach of the kids. That’s right, it wasn’t good for them, but it was my refuge of joy. Cookies, candies, and chips were kept in my special hiding place.
It took a while but I finally realized I needed help. I spoke with my physician who had for years warned me about the dangers of my weight. We discussed gastric bypass surgery and set a date. It wasn’t quite that quick but after much education and some therapy thrown in I was on my way.
Yep, we threw some therapy in. after spending years and years thinking food was the be all and end all I had to retrain my thinking to realize my rewards did not need to be food. I learned to think twice before diving into a mega meal. I learned that having just a bite of dessert could satisfy me. I didn’t have to eat the whole damn thing.
Bariatric surgery was a life saver for me as it has been for many people. I overcame a lifetime of food therapy with confidence in myself. I became much more active and had much more fun. Weight loss surgery is not for everyone but it worked for me.
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